Hey Blog Universe,
Well since I want to try to relate my personal experiences with my blog postings I want to address something that my friends and I discuss every-so-often: relationships. Whether straight/gay, black/white, or male/female relationships are always a delicate topic. I think people are so afraid of being lonely that they rush into relationships and force feelings that manufactured and instead of letting things happen organically. Adding the fact that the courting process is all types of messed up. Gone are the days of just walking through that park and talking, taking lunch breaks together, sending flowers for no reason, going to the movies together…you know actually DATING. Now you come over and sit on separate sides of the bed and 45 minutes later you are doing the horizontal polka, I got that from Steve Urkel!
It’s crazy how different people have different rationalizations and justifications for relationships. My female friends in my age bracket feel like at this time they should be finding the man they will spend the rest of their lives with because 30 is coming FAST! My male friends take it day by day (Ass is Ass), you know we as a male species have commitment issues anyway. My gay friends feel like they need to be boo’d up while they still look cute or before they get too old, you know 30 in Gay years is like 50 in regular years. Don’t have too many lesbian friends but the few that I do have can’t figure out, oh well.
I am one of the few people that I know that like being single. I guess it’s the only child in me but I don’t mind being alone. Lonely is something different but alone I can do. Many people cannot separate those two states of being and are scared of the solitude, but without the alone time one cannot figure out who they are. Self revelation is a daily occurrence and in order to be a complete unit with another individual you need to complete within yourself. Call me greedy but I enjoy options. I enjoy getting to know people and not necessarily on a physical level. Intelligence is probably THE SEXIEST characteristic of someone to me. Someone who is articulate, cultured, and knowledgeable just does something to me but I digress. I feel like sometimes people invest emotionally and physically to someone who shows a miniscule amount of interest or attraction and then of course they are doomed for Splits-Ville. I choose not to put myself through that world wind rollercoaster ride and just keep my options open. I have needs and they get scratched when they need to be. I do want companionship but I refuse to settle for temporary when I know that all that is me is legendary and monumental! Additionally I am 25 and God willing have the rest of my life to find that special someone who can put up with my mood swings and smart ass mouth. I think at this moment if someone were to come into my life I would be more willing to entertain the notion of DATING someone and getting to know someone rather than meeting someone and two weeks later we are dating and they have a space in my closet….which isn’t an option because I don’t have any space in there now…and it’s a walk in! I think that in my younger days I allowed those damn love songs to cloud my better judgment in what love is and how relationships are supposed to unfold! Now I know better and am even more protective of my feelings, emotions, and heart. But I do believe that now I am ready to take on that complex entity (LOVE) on with an open heart and mind! But I’ll keep you posted.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
I'm Back!
Wow it has been way more that a minute but I am back! First off, let me say Happy New Year (Feliz Nuevo Anos) and all that jazz! As we all know this year 2008 is supposed to be the year of change! Unlike millions of people that make these ridiculous New Years resolutions I am making one that I know I can keep: To just Upgrade myself! Not in one specific area but wholly. I am taking a page from Kimora Lee Simmons and I am going to remain and continue to be Fabulous and live that way!
Well I guess I should start with a brief, and I mean brief, update. Well the holidays went OK for me. Thanksgiving was spent surrounded by loved ones including several best friends James and family, Giselle and family, and my personal family as well..Timiki, Aquntis, and my mother. I even visited some of my clients at one of my jobs to kind of spread some holiday cheer. December brought the Christmas season and shopping. This year only shopped for a few folks, mainly the babies, niece, nephew, lil’ brother, 2 cousins, godmother, and of course Donna aka Mommy. It felt really good to actually see their unsuspected faces when I gave them their gifts. Due to my fathers unexpected death a week before Christmas last year and as I get older the holidays don’t mean as much to me but this year was cool. Of course there was the 1 year anniversary of my father’s death on December 11th. I did not know how I was going to be on that day but I made it through without any type of emotional breakdown or having any other adverse affects take over me. I guess it was just a time of reflection for me. I took the day off though just in case I was feeling some kind of way.
Well January has brought in 2008 on a good note. I began working out again. I know I will always have some sort of body issues but I can whole-heartedly say that I am comfortable with my body and am beginning to love it more and more. I have told myself that I will only be going out, clubbing and things of that nature, twice a month. I have realized that at 25 I can’t recover as well as I used to. Working more than one job that is mentally exhausting, going out partying, and getting up early in the morning is not an easy task and it was becoming a weekly occurrence and THAT WILL NEVER DO!
For 2008 I plan on doing it up with the blogging thing. I have been reading various blogs and seeing how progressive they are and I hope to tackle issues that are provocative and relevant to people such as myself: Powerful, Progressive, Determined, Independent, Outspoken, Impactful, Trend Setting, Intellectual, and most of all……SEXY! Are you Ready?
Well I guess I should start with a brief, and I mean brief, update. Well the holidays went OK for me. Thanksgiving was spent surrounded by loved ones including several best friends James and family, Giselle and family, and my personal family as well..Timiki, Aquntis, and my mother. I even visited some of my clients at one of my jobs to kind of spread some holiday cheer. December brought the Christmas season and shopping. This year only shopped for a few folks, mainly the babies, niece, nephew, lil’ brother, 2 cousins, godmother, and of course Donna aka Mommy. It felt really good to actually see their unsuspected faces when I gave them their gifts. Due to my fathers unexpected death a week before Christmas last year and as I get older the holidays don’t mean as much to me but this year was cool. Of course there was the 1 year anniversary of my father’s death on December 11th. I did not know how I was going to be on that day but I made it through without any type of emotional breakdown or having any other adverse affects take over me. I guess it was just a time of reflection for me. I took the day off though just in case I was feeling some kind of way.
Well January has brought in 2008 on a good note. I began working out again. I know I will always have some sort of body issues but I can whole-heartedly say that I am comfortable with my body and am beginning to love it more and more. I have told myself that I will only be going out, clubbing and things of that nature, twice a month. I have realized that at 25 I can’t recover as well as I used to. Working more than one job that is mentally exhausting, going out partying, and getting up early in the morning is not an easy task and it was becoming a weekly occurrence and THAT WILL NEVER DO!
For 2008 I plan on doing it up with the blogging thing. I have been reading various blogs and seeing how progressive they are and I hope to tackle issues that are provocative and relevant to people such as myself: Powerful, Progressive, Determined, Independent, Outspoken, Impactful, Trend Setting, Intellectual, and most of all……SEXY! Are you Ready?
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