Amanda's Wedding and my Red pants!

*The red pants Donna told me were going to be bad luck to wear to a wedding...Oh well!*

Hey Ya'll (real country right),

Well Here is a lil update. I went to my friend Amanda's wedding this past weekend and had a great time. Anytime you can celebrate love with special people in your life and wear a banging outfit is an occasion to talk about! First of let me say that God has put these two together for real, they have been together since undergrad and although they have been through their trials they made it and I was just overjoyed to know I could be a part of their day. Even more fab was that I was able to spend time with some friends that I haven't seen in ions....and they brought their a game. My outfit consisted of red pants that my mother Donna cleary attempted to veto, stating it was bad luck to wear red to a wedding, Says Who?, with a black tuxedo like shirt with sequence down the seams in the front...show stopper...Yes I am! All had a great time and can't wait for all of us to do it again....soon too! Here are a few pictures! Jaret and Ricardo (trouble when we are around)Tykeia and Jaret...Young Black and FabulousJaret, The Groom, and RicardoRicardo, Stacy, and JaretStacy and JaretKash, Jaret, Tykeia, Stacy, and RicardoMs. Robinson....Stop Playing I love you!

Has It Really Been That Long?!

Wow I can't believe the last time I blogged was in February. Where does the time go? So much has happened since then I guees I will start by saying hello to the blog world! Not that I have a cult following or anything like that but who knows who reads this? Well I guess I will give a brief update month by month. Well in March I turned 26! Ugh I know I call it 25 part 2! And I am so serious! It was the first time I had entertained at my apartment for my friends and family and I had a blast! From my childhood friends Evaristo and Aizy to my cousins Darlene and Artia, to my friend Jamaine. My two moms were there (No Homo..lol) Donna (Biological)and Juanita (GodMother). All the people that mean a lot to me were there. We drank, and drank, and drank and all was well with the world. Here are a few more just for the hell of it. Yes that is cake on my face can you believe it! Easter brought my Best friend back to me! Giselle came back home from Chi-town to see her nephew take his comfirmation so as always it was amazing spending time with her and my surrogate family. I love them so much. She actuallycame the day after my birthday party so she was unable to make it but its ok I still love her. April was pretty chill I guess nothing really jumping out at me a this moment. I was just getting ready for my vacation in May for Memorial Day! It had been exactly a year since I had been to Florida to see my Brother John and go on a cruise to the Bahamas for his birthday, so I was anticipating that. On to May. May was really just a count down until my vacation in Miami. I did however get to go see one of my favorite artists in history.....TAMIA! In Concert! Ummm yeah start being jealous now! She was mezmorizing and I acted real groupie like, as if she was singing every lyric to me personally. I wasn't even phased when her husband Grant Hill came out during her last few bars of "Still," I was like "Whateva Nigga You Ain't Me!" She sang all of my favorites and in superb form and fashion! The clarity in her voice is like listening to the CD in your own home but with the intensity of a live concert setting. Definitely better than 85 percent of these heffers out here claiming they can do something...PuhLease! I was so excited to get away from good ole' Connecticut and get some sun and relaxation it didn't make sense once the end of May hit. It did rain while I was down there due to a tornado somewhere off the coast but it didn't overcast what my purpose was...to be totally uniinhibited and have fun. I saw plenty of people from Connecticut and reconnected with some friends from around the country and it really made the trip more special too! Of course there was some drama on the last evening but when you have 1 itinerary focused and timely person and three people who don't understand the concept of time there is bound to be something but it is what it is! Now we are in June and this heat don't make no sense. I mean really who does that, 95 degrees out of no where for no reason!? No new love(s) just yet but I have been breaking down the walls and allowing myself to be approached more and being more receptive to new opportunities to meet new people I would have otherwise not. I been meeting some cool people for friendship and otherwise but until there is anything concrete I don't feel there is anything to report! Well I am going to try my best to keep up with this so pray for me and come along for the journey!

Awww Hell to the Naw!

So today is just like any other day, except for I have a stomach ache that won't let up and my mother just informs me that she just returned from......a LUNCH DATE! This will NEVER due! Granted I may be having a moment of immature adolescent thinking and behavior but I DON'T LIKE IT! My father pasted away just a little over a year ago and already I have to deal with this! I mean granted my mother is in her 50's but looks like she is in her 40's. She has a beautiful personality and everyone gravitates towards her. She is hilarious and who wouldn't want to date her but hell I am not ready for this! I don't mean to act like the spoiled child that I am but who cares! I have only seen my mother interact romantically with one man in my 25 years on this earth....my father! So now what am I supposed to do? I know she has got to get hers and everyone needs companionship but isn't there like a grieving/bereavment/mourning period where dating is prohibited?

So I do what I know best and ask the advice of my closest friends about the situation. Giselle, my BFF and mothers surrogate daughter, after laughing hysterically stated she feels that I may feel like I may be replaced if another gentlman were to enter the pucture...Ummmm NO! I am her ONLY child and I am the Clyde to her Bonnie! Also that I may be focusing on all the bad that can come about in a relationship instead of the good! OK WHATEVER! I inform James, Oh did I mention that it is HIS GODFATHER with whom she went on the lunch date with! After we both get over the initial shock I tell him I don't like it and to inform his Godfather that I am crazy! Everyone else that I ask tells me to get over it and tha I am overreacting! WHATEVER, OH WELL and QUE LASTIMA!

My mother and I have been through Hell and back again and have been able to come out overcome obstacles together and have been able to maintain an extremely close relationship. Perhaps I am being selfish and do not want the attention she gives me to be given to another man. Perhaps I am scared that another man may put her through superfluous non-sense. Perhaps I am afraid! Who knows, all I know is shortly after hearing the LUNCH DATE scenario.... I THREW UP! Could it have been my already upset stomach or could it have been this TRAGIC news! You form your own conclusion but I know I DON'T LIKE IT!

Love is For Suckaz! *Kidding...just a little bit!*

Hey Blog Universe,

Well since I want to try to relate my personal experiences with my blog postings I want to address something that my friends and I discuss every-so-often: relationships. Whether straight/gay, black/white, or male/female relationships are always a delicate topic. I think people are so afraid of being lonely that they rush into relationships and force feelings that manufactured and instead of letting things happen organically. Adding the fact that the courting process is all types of messed up. Gone are the days of just walking through that park and talking, taking lunch breaks together, sending flowers for no reason, going to the movies together…you know actually DATING. Now you come over and sit on separate sides of the bed and 45 minutes later you are doing the horizontal polka, I got that from Steve Urkel!

It’s crazy how different people have different rationalizations and justifications for relationships. My female friends in my age bracket feel like at this time they should be finding the man they will spend the rest of their lives with because 30 is coming FAST! My male friends take it day by day (Ass is Ass), you know we as a male species have commitment issues anyway. My gay friends feel like they need to be boo’d up while they still look cute or before they get too old, you know 30 in Gay years is like 50 in regular years. Don’t have too many lesbian friends but the few that I do have can’t figure out, oh well.

I am one of the few people that I know that like being single. I guess it’s the only child in me but I don’t mind being alone. Lonely is something different but alone I can do. Many people cannot separate those two states of being and are scared of the solitude, but without the alone time one cannot figure out who they are. Self revelation is a daily occurrence and in order to be a complete unit with another individual you need to complete within yourself. Call me greedy but I enjoy options. I enjoy getting to know people and not necessarily on a physical level. Intelligence is probably THE SEXIEST characteristic of someone to me. Someone who is articulate, cultured, and knowledgeable just does something to me but I digress. I feel like sometimes people invest emotionally and physically to someone who shows a miniscule amount of interest or attraction and then of course they are doomed for Splits-Ville. I choose not to put myself through that world wind rollercoaster ride and just keep my options open. I have needs and they get scratched when they need to be. I do want companionship but I refuse to settle for temporary when I know that all that is me is legendary and monumental! Additionally I am 25 and God willing have the rest of my life to find that special someone who can put up with my mood swings and smart ass mouth. I think at this moment if someone were to come into my life I would be more willing to entertain the notion of DATING someone and getting to know someone rather than meeting someone and two weeks later we are dating and they have a space in my closet….which isn’t an option because I don’t have any space in there now…and it’s a walk in! I think that in my younger days I allowed those damn love songs to cloud my better judgment in what love is and how relationships are supposed to unfold! Now I know better and am even more protective of my feelings, emotions, and heart. But I do believe that now I am ready to take on that complex entity (LOVE) on with an open heart and mind! But I’ll keep you posted.

I'm Back!

Wow it has been way more that a minute but I am back! First off, let me say Happy New Year (Feliz Nuevo Anos) and all that jazz! As we all know this year 2008 is supposed to be the year of change! Unlike millions of people that make these ridiculous New Years resolutions I am making one that I know I can keep: To just Upgrade myself! Not in one specific area but wholly. I am taking a page from Kimora Lee Simmons and I am going to remain and continue to be Fabulous and live that way!

Well I guess I should start with a brief, and I mean brief, update. Well the holidays went OK for me. Thanksgiving was spent surrounded by loved ones including several best friends James and family, Giselle and family, and my personal family as well..Timiki, Aquntis, and my mother. I even visited some of my clients at one of my jobs to kind of spread some holiday cheer. December brought the Christmas season and shopping. This year only shopped for a few folks, mainly the babies, niece, nephew, lil’ brother, 2 cousins, godmother, and of course Donna aka Mommy. It felt really good to actually see their unsuspected faces when I gave them their gifts. Due to my fathers unexpected death a week before Christmas last year and as I get older the holidays don’t mean as much to me but this year was cool. Of course there was the 1 year anniversary of my father’s death on December 11th. I did not know how I was going to be on that day but I made it through without any type of emotional breakdown or having any other adverse affects take over me. I guess it was just a time of reflection for me. I took the day off though just in case I was feeling some kind of way.

Well January has brought in 2008 on a good note. I began working out again. I know I will always have some sort of body issues but I can whole-heartedly say that I am comfortable with my body and am beginning to love it more and more. I have told myself that I will only be going out, clubbing and things of that nature, twice a month. I have realized that at 25 I can’t recover as well as I used to. Working more than one job that is mentally exhausting, going out partying, and getting up early in the morning is not an easy task and it was becoming a weekly occurrence and THAT WILL NEVER DO!

For 2008 I plan on doing it up with the blogging thing. I have been reading various blogs and seeing how progressive they are and I hope to tackle issues that are provocative and relevant to people such as myself: Powerful, Progressive, Determined, Independent, Outspoken, Impactful, Trend Setting, Intellectual, and most of all……SEXY! Are you Ready?